I don't know where it came from, but for my entire adult life I have felt uncomfortable with the idea of help or support. Whether big or small, I'd feel like I had to accomplish things by myself. My personal mantra was, "I got it!" Until I realized, "I don't got it." I had been throwing on my …
Who Taught You How To Take Care Of Yourself?
Usually at some point at every one of my events, I toss this question to the group, because I believe in its power of illumination: Who taught you how to take care of yourself? I ask this question often because it helps us get to the heart of how we operate in this world today. If there were …
Combating Negative Self-Talk In One Easy Step
If you struggle with anxiety (like I do) or self-doubt, you probably fight negative self-talk on a regular basis. Sometimes that voice sounds like: “Why would you post that on Facebook? Nobody cares what you’re going through.” “Nobody is going to come to your event.” “Your boss doesn’t …
The Beauty (And Sometimes Necessity) Of Returning To Therapy
Coming out of a particularly difficult depressive episode in 2014, I made the decision that ultimately changed the trajectory of my life. I decided to do the legwork and find a therapist to help me navigate where I was mentally. Researching therapists, deciphering my insurance, picking up the …
Maybe No One Offers To Help You Because You Don’t Know How To Accept It
In addition to my private self-care coaching group, I also ran a local blogger group where I tried to support women in my community as they grow their blogs. I had started out hosting monthly meet-ups, posting informative links, and encouraging brag days where we talked about our progress. But then …
Build Yourself A Foolproof Bedtime Routine
I started writing this blog post and I realized that my bedtime routine is kind of elaborate, but it was developed out of necessity. By nature I'm an anxious person and a deep thinker. I carry my emotions around long after a situation has passed. As a result, I'm typically pretty tense at the …
How to Set Up A Morning Routine That Actually Works
On Monday I shared my AM/PM system that I've used for four years now as the basis of my self-care practice. It's simple: Do something for yourself in the AM and in the PM. Easy. Boom. You're done. A few of you wrote to me with some questions so I figured I'd break it down so you can figure …