Check Your Self-Care Account: Withdrawals Vs. Deposits
How often do you get to the end of the day and you are completely drained?
That's because each of us, every day, are getting slammed with withdrawals from the moment we wake up. That is LIFE.
These look like:
Traffic is backed up on the way to work so you're frazzled before you even sit at your desk
Your kids were cutting up at school so you've had to take extra time to correct their behavior
Your loved one is in the hospital and you've been worried nonstop
Your cramps have been on 1000% this cycle
Your newest addition to the family is sleep regressing and you haven't gotten a solid night's sleep in weeks/months
And so on and so on….
Life will take it out of you before you know it. Which means we gotta pay attention to ourselves. If you don't believe anything else I tell you, believe this:
You are your #1 advocate. You are the first one to know when something is "off," when you need extra love and care, when you need a moment to breathe.
This is why every week I'm asking you to make deposits in your "self-care account."
These depositsare your first line of defense when those inevitable withdrawals take place. If you are running on fumes, you are less likely to have enough mental clarity or the emotional capacity to properly deal with the issue at hand. And then you're further digging yourself into a hole.
So what do these deposits look like?
Taking a walk
Calling/chatting with a friend
Canceling plans to get some extra rest
Calling in reinforcements
Taking yourself to see a movie
Making a different decision about the way you've been handling a problem
Cooking something delicious
Sitting still
Taking the time to soothe your body with a bath
Crying it out
And so on and so on…
I want all of you to get in the habit of accessing what your balance is.
Often you will not have control over your withdrawals. But you do have control over the deposits.